It is not that we all don't have excuses to hate (death, pain, illness, hardship, struggle) and not care...oh wow...do we ever! It is so EASY today to have a reason to hurt and then to hate in return. Why do you think Jesus said: “Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.” Matthew 24:12? Loving is hard in our world, and it will get harder. The only way I know I can effectively love is by using the Bible and the Holy Spirit to guide me. If I were to love by how I define it, I am sure my emotions and experiences would affect how and who I love. The time is coming where we will have to use the love God gives us to love others. We wont be able to love others upon our own power and will.